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the judgment of infxs
this might come off a little accusatory as i'm not an infx (haha) but just a disclaimer and acknowledgment here that all mbti types are judgmental, in their own ways! the reason i'm making this post is part of an upcoming? series of posts about the differences between infj and infp, as i know a lot of them tend to mistype as each other.
i also have quite a number of infj and infp friends (don't worry, i can tell them apart) and i've sort of noticed a similar-but-different pattern in the way that they judge people and people-focused events. and when i say "judge," i don't mean it as a bad thing, as everyone judges. but i think the way that infjs and infps judge are very similar that they can be mistaken as each other - but there's also a difference with which they do it.
the main difference is this: infps use their Fi when judging, while infjs are actually using their tertiary Ti, which as a result gets paired with their auxiliary Fe.
what does this mean?
well, i feel like infps tend to internalize their judgments much more. of course they'll express and try to come up with ideas/solutions if they can - but the main thing is is that it's their values, and purely that, and that's why they can feel so strongly about it. they may still view it as objective or correct or the Only Way, but the source of their beliefs comes purely from just what they feel is right. there is no base on their stance and judgment other than themselves - which is completely valid, of course - but breaking down the way they think and feel and at the core, they need to believe what they believe and if they choose to change or reconsider their judgment, it has to be something that they want to feel comfortable doing. if you try to talk them out of it, you have to make sure you don't talk to them in a way that invalidates them - not just their way of thinking, but, at the core, how they view themselves and their own beliefs. it's not inherently self-centrism or sensitivity. their values and desires are merely at the center of their identity.
on the other hand, the infj's tertiary Ti makes them believe that their judgments are "common sense," or something that should be widely recognizable as correct. this also isn't a bad thing as it also kind of leads infjs to be more open-minded than they may make themselves seem or out to be! they just need to see the logic in breaking down their own argument or the view of others for them to realize that their understanding of logic is different from other's. but because of their secondary Fe, this is why they tend to express their judgments quite often - they want others to understand the logic of their judgment, especially when it pertains to the people they're talking to.
infjs are a little more... overbearing with their judgments, i think, but infps have a tendency to seem more as stubbornly expressing themselves (if they do) rather than pointing something out. infjs are the pointing-out type, because they actually approach their judgments in a more objective way, and when they express it, it's for you. meanwhile when infps express themselves it's for them - again, not a bad thing - and "you can believe what you want but this is what i believe and you can't change that (unless you're able to appeal to me."
obviously being an infj or an infp is no indicator of open-mindedness, especially since infps have their auxiliary Ne so they can be more openminded than this post may make them out to be (lmao.) the point is - the source of an infj's judgment is largely founded on a subconscious objectivity they view on people (because they care about them), while an infp's judgment starts with the self.
i also have quite a number of infj and infp friends (don't worry, i can tell them apart) and i've sort of noticed a similar-but-different pattern in the way that they judge people and people-focused events. and when i say "judge," i don't mean it as a bad thing, as everyone judges. but i think the way that infjs and infps judge are very similar that they can be mistaken as each other - but there's also a difference with which they do it.
the main difference is this: infps use their Fi when judging, while infjs are actually using their tertiary Ti, which as a result gets paired with their auxiliary Fe.
what does this mean?
well, i feel like infps tend to internalize their judgments much more. of course they'll express and try to come up with ideas/solutions if they can - but the main thing is is that it's their values, and purely that, and that's why they can feel so strongly about it. they may still view it as objective or correct or the Only Way, but the source of their beliefs comes purely from just what they feel is right. there is no base on their stance and judgment other than themselves - which is completely valid, of course - but breaking down the way they think and feel and at the core, they need to believe what they believe and if they choose to change or reconsider their judgment, it has to be something that they want to feel comfortable doing. if you try to talk them out of it, you have to make sure you don't talk to them in a way that invalidates them - not just their way of thinking, but, at the core, how they view themselves and their own beliefs. it's not inherently self-centrism or sensitivity. their values and desires are merely at the center of their identity.
on the other hand, the infj's tertiary Ti makes them believe that their judgments are "common sense," or something that should be widely recognizable as correct. this also isn't a bad thing as it also kind of leads infjs to be more open-minded than they may make themselves seem or out to be! they just need to see the logic in breaking down their own argument or the view of others for them to realize that their understanding of logic is different from other's. but because of their secondary Fe, this is why they tend to express their judgments quite often - they want others to understand the logic of their judgment, especially when it pertains to the people they're talking to.
infjs are a little more... overbearing with their judgments, i think, but infps have a tendency to seem more as stubbornly expressing themselves (if they do) rather than pointing something out. infjs are the pointing-out type, because they actually approach their judgments in a more objective way, and when they express it, it's for you. meanwhile when infps express themselves it's for them - again, not a bad thing - and "you can believe what you want but this is what i believe and you can't change that (unless you're able to appeal to me."
obviously being an infj or an infp is no indicator of open-mindedness, especially since infps have their auxiliary Ne so they can be more openminded than this post may make them out to be (lmao.) the point is - the source of an infj's judgment is largely founded on a subconscious objectivity they view on people (because they care about them), while an infp's judgment starts with the self.