ixtps see themselves looking through a glass wall at other people, so they see and notice how people interact and communicate but don't really know how to do it themselves, since they can't see themselves beyond the glass wall between them and People so they often just don't try, or are just genuinely bad at it. obviously this can result in multiple types of behavior and attitude, but the point is that ixtps feel isolated from others because of this thick glass wall. so healthily they would use their observational skills to their advantage- letting people in when people are interested, curating something that can help others without depending on their anxiety, or learning to be part of a community where they feel welcome and the wall feels more thin.
extps are similar in their wall, except it's naturally and initially much thinner, and they more often than not put themselves in the situation to Try To Fit In With Others and ignore/break that wall. no one wants it to be there but the extp is more likely to initially do something about it (while the ixtp is more prone to accepting it), but of course if the extp goes through a depressive phase or loops or whatnot, the wall can feel claustrophobic and oppressive. they are usually always trying to rebel against it, even if they don't act particularly aggressive (which is more typical in entps) or charming/charismatic (more often found in estps.)
(ugh, i know i keep using the same words to describe estps, SORRY)
before i had walls describing all the low thinkers, but i think it's more applicable for any Ti/Fe user. higher Fe users will see themselves on both sides of the wall, more easily phasing in and out between sides (socializing and isolationism) than a lower Fe user. this often leads to "championing for a people" or "championing for a cause" willing Fe-doms. they see themselves as part of a community, or completely outside of it. tps see these things less in terms of community (unless, of course, they develop an emotional connection to communities in particular, but this would be have to be a choice/influential whereas for the higher Fe they feel this way innately) and more in terms of social interaction and relationships.
extjs, on the other hand, have more of a bubble around them. they see themselves divided by the bubble - and it's not something that's curated or stamped upon them, it's just the way they view themselves and interacting with the world - but like the ixtp, they accept the solidness of the bubble. instead of feeling mildly anxiety inducing and frustrating, though, the more (relative to ixtps, who tend to be more awkward) socially-capable extj reacts inside themselves - "i'm separate from others because i'm better than them" or "i'm separate and i can use my observational skills for others/something inside of myself." they are masters of manipulation in this way because they're able to differentiate external actions from something innate inside of them - a large amount of the time, though, when they are unhealthy (and obvious) they will be exceedingly selfish and unable to see themselves at fault, or take responsibility of their actions. it's not denial - it is just largely difficult for them to see themselves in the wrong, because they live inside such a faux self-understanding of their bubble without even realizing it. of course, once they learn to take responsibility for their actions, listen to others, and own up to consequences, they can become exceedingly powerful people with excellent relationships and also a healthy attitude/mental health.
and to combat this with the ixtp (the other lowest F), ixtps are actually quite good at self-criticism and recognizing their faults - but extremely rarely would they willingly want to express it or let people know. so in some case this is not any better than the extj for whom responsibility is difficult - the ixtp will lack the honesty and confrontational skills to let people know that they know that they are flawed.
of all the lower Fs, ixtjs are likely the most prone to be the most socially acceptable, actually. this is because they also possess a bubble, but they are not caught up in it like the extj, but they are relatively comfortable with it. this is because they have a better relationship with choosing to withdraw from the world, or engage with others; their bubble is a little bigger so they are prone to letting people in when they're comfortable and basically shut off from everyone else. so they know and can choose to engage nicely. BUT... if (and often, when) they get misanthropic and egoistic and stubborn, their self-awareness gets botched and unbearable. they possess more of an ability to be self-reflective than the extj, but this can also lead to misconceptions with their self-perception and they can be very aggressive when they lose their true "self," or refuse to accept change.
higher Fi users tend to create the bubble themselves - the exfp who feels just as content alone and with others, and the ixfp who creates the wall purely on their own, on their divide of what's right and wrong, what they like and don't like, regularly deciding on the things that make them comfortable and things they reject. and again, this mental behavior is not (usually) forced upon them; it's inherent and something that their development teaches them to do. obviously the actual contents of how and why these bubbles are curated can be influenced by the environment, but ultimately the ixfp easily and strongly finds things they identify with; and the exfp takes a lot of time to balance their understanding of themselves and their understanding of others.
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